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11 Signs of a Truly Authentic Person

In the last week or two, the topic of authenticity has been coming up in my life.  The discussion of authenticity came up a couple times in a class and then it came up again during a therapy session.  This led me to sit back and ask myself: What actually constitutes a truly authentic person?

Upon deeper introspection, I came to the conclusion that becoming authentic is a lifetime — and beyond —  process.  It’s like peeling an onion and over time as we grow, heal, and love ourselves more and more, we become more of who we truly are.

There can be moments when we are truly expressing our authentic selves and then there are moments that trigger our inner wounds.   We then find ourselves acting in a way that’s out of alignment with our own inner truth and, instead, acting as a reaction to our wounds being reactivated.

So as I said before, it’s a lifelong process, but this doesn’t mean that it’s something we shouldn’t aspire to.  Just because it may take time and practice to do a headstand in a yoga class, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t bother doing the work so you can eventually do it with ease.

So here are the 11 signs of a truly authentic person:

#1 – They recognize the emptiness in material things

They’re not out buying Gucci with the hope that it will make them happy.  While they may enjoy material things, they don’t see it as “If I just have this one item, then I’ll be happy”.  They also don’t rate other people based on the material items that they have or don’t have because they know it doesn’t hold much meaning.

#2 – They recognize that experiences make their lives richer

They’re aware of how life experiences create more meaning and richness in our lives.  They are open to explore and learn, both externally and internally.

#3 – They truly listen to others

They don’t listen in order to respond.  Nor do they listen to others while being distracted by their phone, the TV or whatever else may be a distraction.  They’re able to be fully present with another person.  They’re able to listen to others with a genuine interest and care for the other person.

#4 – They express their true thoughts, feelings and views unapologetically

They don’t say things that they don’t truly mean.  They don’t do things that they don’t really want to do.  They are able to share their own unique thoughts, feelings and views without fear of other’s opinions.

#5 – They’re not out to please people

They know that by living their lives to please others all the time disconnects them from their own inner experience.  The know the importance of being aware, acknowledging, and expressing their own unique thoughts, feelings and views to the world.  They know that by expressing their true internal experience, they are able to share their gifts with the world.

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#6 – They see value in giving love to others

They see value in giving love and kindness indiscriminately.  They understand that we are all connected and are willing to give others a helping hand.  They know that by helping others, they are helping themselves.  They allow and encourage others to express their own truth with love and acceptance as well.

#7 – They love themselves

They see themselves as a person of value who deserves love, kindness and support.  They provide themselves with adequate care to support their own health and well-being.

#8 – They are willing to see and acknowledge their own faults

They are aware they we are all wounded and may have various prejudices.  They don’t judge others for their own prejudices, but rather see it as a part of the person’s own inner wounding that has yet to be healed.  They know that there are aspects of themselves that they don’t like either, and they’re willing to swallow their ego and acknowledge those parts regardless. 

#9 – They understand that we are all unique — and that’s okay!

They know that not everyone is going to agree on everything all the time.  They are accepting of differing views and opinions.  They don’t label themselves as “right” and another person as “wrong” or visa versa.

#10 – They take responsibility for their lives

They don’t blame other people for what happens to them in their lives.  They take personal responsibility for how they’re actions created a certain outcome.  They are willing to look at how they influenced each and every situation and act accordingly.

#11 – They’re connected to their own inner guide

They’ve been able to clear their minds of the constant mind chatter in order to hear an inner voice that is greater than them.  They are able to act in accordance to their inner guidance with trust and faith, despite not having external validation.

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Out of the list above, are any of these 11 signs of authenticity harder for you to do than others?  Do some come a little more “natural” to you?  How do you struggle to be authentic in your relationships and life?  Share your thoughts in the comments below!

5 Things Women Need to Remember to Create The Best Life Imaginable

We all want the best life imaginable.  We want fulfilling relationships filled with love and connection and a career that we never get tired of.

But how many of us women actually KNOW how to create that for ourselves?  I mean, heck, as women we don’t have nearly as many role models to look to for inspiration and guidance on how to truly create the best lives for ourselves.

It’s easy to just sit and wonder puzzled over where to even begin.  So here are 5 things that every woman needs to remember in order to create the life of their dreams.

No person or thing else can make us happy – we have to give that to ourselves!

The habit that many of us fall into is thinking that other people and things are going to fulfill us.  We buy a brand new Gucci purse thinking that’s going to make our lack of emotional fulfillment in our job feel so much better.  We latch on to our new boyfriend with this underlying belief that “he will complete us” in some way.

The “tough love” truth here is that NONE of those things are going to make you fulfilled – or, at least, not for very long.  The only way that we can make ourselves happy and fulfilled is by doing things to give it to ourselves.

So stop and ask yourself: What activities make me happy?  What makes me feel happy and fulfilled as I do it?  Then start incorporating that into your daily life!

ALL emotions are valid.

Many of us women are either taught by our families or ex-boyfriends that our feelings and ridiculous and we simply just shouldn’t have them.  Well I’m here to tell you that is completely RIDICULOUS!  Emotions are the underlying drive to everything that happens in this world.

So rather than fall into the classic mental trap of “Oh I can’t express this emotion because people will think its ridiculous”, change the mindset to “This is my emotion.  It is real, it is valid, and it deserves to be nourished”.

Take care of yourself.  Except how you feel and do what you need to make yourself feel better.

Each and every one of us is struggle with our own unique battle.

Every single person is struggling in this world and, because of that, every single person is doing the best they can do at this point in time.  When we fully accept that, we can save ourselves a lot of unnecessary stress.

We can’t create the life of our dreams if we’re living someone else’s life.

Be willing to express your uniqueness to the world.  If every female in your family is a nurse and you don’t want to be a nurse, then don’t do it!  Be YOU.  Do what is best for YOU, not what other’s expect of you.

We ALL deserve the best life imaginable.

The single biggest reason many of us struggle to create the life of our dreams is because we don’t BELIEVE we deserve it.  There’s always that little voice in our heads that tells us “Why do I deserve the life of my dreams?”  Well, who and what says that you DON’T deserve it?  You are a wonderful human being and deserve to receive all the things your heart desires.  The more you believe that deep within yourself, the closer you get to achieving it.

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Which of these 5 tips rings most true for you right now?  Share it in the comments below!