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The Key to Stepping into Your True Purpose 

Whether you’re fully aware of it right now or not, I know that you have a Divine purpose to serve this world in a big way.  That purpose is in perfect alignment with you and your gifts so that you can serve others to the best of your ability.

We all have our own purpose… and it is in perfect alignment with what our own unique gifts are.  They are all beautiful and magnificent in their own unique way. 

However, if you’re anything like me, then you’ve experienced doubt.  Maybe you’ve felt the call to grab an idea and make it a reality but your mind has come in with thoughts like…

… I don’t have enough money to do this.

… I don’t have enough time to do this.

… I’m not capable of doing this.

… I don’t have enough education to do this.

nobody is going to like my work.

… I’ll just be judged and criticized for my work.

… I’ll be a failure.

… I’ll never be able to make money doing it.

… other people have done it already.

… other people are better than me.

… I’m not good enough.

Well, I’m here to tell you that you are good enough.  You’re not serving anyone by playing small and staying locked up in fear.

This is one of the many lessons I’ve learned through my friend, mentor, and New York Times Bestselling Author Gabrielle Bernstein.  Gabby has been a life coach and motivational speaker for over a decade and she is committed to guiding us through what blocks us from truly stepping into our life’s purpose. 

For the next couple weeks, Gabby’s sharing 3 free videos that I thought would be extremely beneficial to you.  The material in these videos will help you clear the blocks to your confidence and give you the direction you need so that you can act right now.

There are a few common blocks that hold us back from truly and fully stepping into our true power and Gabby covers them in these 3 videos.

In this first video, she tackles the issue of confidence!  In this video, Gabby will teach you how to gain confidence so you can rise up, live in your true purpose and own your authentic voice.

She shares her own personal story of how she became a speaker, author and public figure with zero past experience or degree.  She also shares the 3 steps that helped her embrace her own power so she could step into her Divine purpose.

Through this video, you’ll be able to gain the confidence that you need to share your own transformational story in your own way so that you can truly serve others and the world.

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Click here to watch the FREE video!

Much love to you,

Jennifer

 

P.S.  I’m a proud affiliate of Gabrielle Bernstein’s Spirit Junkie Masterclass digital training.  I deeply believe in her work and this program.  I may earn a referral fee if you sign up for the program from my recommendation.  https://xh111.isrefer.com/go/sjmvid1/jenilyn8705

How to Deal When Your Partner Isn’t as Spiritual As You

I have a confession to make.

Somewhere around 4 to 5 months into my most recent relationship I seriously considered breaking it off.  The whole dynamic of me being the “spiritual one” and him not being spiritual — well, at all — just wasn’t quite working for me.  How could we make it work when we couldn’t see eye to eye?

So I wanted to breakup.  End it.  Be done with it.

This decision of potentially ending this relationship made me quite distressed so I started discussing it with various coaches and counselors.

“Well, that really depends…”

“Yeah, I think you’re ready for this relationship to end… “

“It sounds like you’re stuck in this place and you’re ready for a change…”

… I would hear them say.

Though this advice resonated with me on some level, it still didn’t feel quite “right” to me.  So I decided to do nothing and continued on with the relationship, despite continuing to feel troubled by this whole “I’m spiritual and he’s not” thing.

Then one day I was listening to a mentor of mine giving a talk about relationships and someone had told her, “I’m so frustrated.  My boyfriend isn’t nearly as spiritual as me”.  With those words I perked up and leaned in closer, giving this exchange my full attention.  “How do I deal when my boyfriend isn’t as spiritual as me?” she asked.

My mentor looked at her with her piercing brown eyes and said…

“You gotta worry about your own side of the street, honey”.

“You’re only in control of yourself”, she continued, “and he is on his own spiritual path.  All you can do is to do the spiritual work yourself, be the light and he will gradually come to his own understanding in his own way and on his own time”. 

I was immediately skeptical.  How on earth is that going to work?, I thought to myself.  This guy wants to get into religious and spiritual debates with me.  He isn’t out to understand and accept — he’s only out to “win” his point. 

But despite these thoughts, there was a sense, a voice deep down in the core of my being that said, “Just do it and you’ll see”. 

And so I did just that. 

I stopped worry about him and started working on myself.  I started meditating daily.  I began reading more spiritual texts.  I started to really implement the work into my life.

I never once preached my beliefs  to him or share with him anything that he didn’t already express some interest or curiosity in.  And if he wanted to debate religion and spirituality I simply set a boundary stating that I didn’t want to talk about it.

I just focused on myself and did my own thing.

And over time, something amazing happened…

We started meditating together.

We started going to yoga classes together.

He started asking me about some of the books I was reading.

Somehow, miraculously, he became more open and accepting.

And you know what else?

Gradually the arguments became fewer and fewer.  And we became closer and closer.

Our love deepened and we somehow became more comfortable with each other and more in love than we were before.

Our relationship progressed to a whole new level.  A level that neither one of us have ever experienced with another person before.

All because I decided to completely focus on working on myself and not him.

So how did I do it and how can you do it if you’re in this situation as well?  Here’s a few tips:

1.  Recognize that the whole “I’m right and you’re wrong” mentality is nothing but your ego. 

So when you catch yourself getting into that frame of thinking, just recognize it and let it go.

2.  Set boundaries.

If you see your partner getting into the whole “you’re right I’m wrong” mentality, then set a boundary with them.  Say something like, “Honey I love you, but because I love you I don’t think we should be talking about this right now” and walk away or go in the other room. 

3.  Be the light. 

Like Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to see in the world”.  Do the spiritual work that you need to do for yourself and, over time, maybe your partner will start to wonder, Hey!  What is she doing for herself?  Cause it seems to work.  I better check this out. 

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And if they don’t, so what?  It doesn’t matter because all that matters at the end of the day is that you are being a channel for your own inner transformation — and that makes all the difference.

In the comments below, share with me one thing that you are going to commit to doing on a regular basis so that you can be “the change you wish to see”.

It’s Okay to Be Angry

In the past few weeks, I’ve found myself experiencing some spouts of irritation.  I kept finding myself with more and more things that I had to do, but with less and less motivation to do any of it.

The demands of my other part-time job, the demands of schoolwork, and other demands were causing this built up irritation.

It was very difficult to admit to this irritation because, logically and rationally, everything that I was doing was right.  I was doing the things that I needed to do that would, theoretically, help me grow and achieve my goals.

When I’d paint the picture logically, it’d flow perfectly and make sense.  I mean, I was doing things that could help my own personal development and growth, so how can I not like that?

This would then lead to thoughts of, “Oh but maybe if I’m resisting all of this so much then that means that I need to work on that more, right?  I mean, that is what can happen during some personal and spiritual development activities.”

I’d talk myself out of my own feelings because they seemed so out of place to where everyone else was.  So I’d simply go along with it and only express my frustrations vaguely to a few select people in fear that my irritation was somehow “wrong”.

But the truth is that honestly, I was pissed off.  I hated it.  I hated doing all these things that I was being told to do.  “Their” way didn’t gel with me.  Something was off and I was feeling like the alien because I felt like I was definitely not doing the same kind of process that everyone else was.  I just wanted to do my own thing, in my own way, in my own unique process.

The fact that I simply felt like I couldn’t really do things in my own unique way and in my own unique time pissed me off.  I felt trapped and I hated that feeling so incredibly much.

This was so incredibly hard to admit to myself because, I mean, how can I really be angry over something that I, first of all, not only chose to do but, second of all, it supposed to help me?

It was kind of like one of my earlier experiences where I found myself angry at a therapist (or two) of mine during my undergrad.  I was very irritated and angry from working with her, but I had told myself to simply go along with it because “she’s qualified to be helping me”.

Needless to say, trying to convince myself that it’s okay and to ignore my own frustrations just caused more harm then good.

Though we may not like our own anger or feel that, for some reason, it is not okay to be angry, pissed off, or hate something, the truth is that our anger can be the key to truly discovering the desires of our heart.  It is by acknowledging our anger that helps us to see what it is that our soul is calling us to do so that we can take proper action and move forward.

Allowing ourselves to feel our own anger and irritation can be the key to discovering what it is that our intuition is guiding for us to do next.  If we allow ourselves to simply be mad and then take personal responsibility for it by taking action to help release that anger, then we allow ourselves to progress and move forward.

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So how can we acknowledge and release our anger so that we can become more in-line with our soul’s true calling?

Acknowledge and accept that you are angry.

Many times if we are angry and aren’t acknowledging it it is because we’re telling ourselves some mental dialogue that it is not okay to be angry.  Either to not express it or to simply allow ourselves to feel it for this person or situation.

If you aren’t really sure if you are angry or not, you can do one or two things:

Check in with your body.  Are you feeling a lot of extra tension?  Do you feel kind of agitated in the body?  If so, it could be representing some kind of anger.

Recognize the words you are using to describe your experience.  Are you just saying that you’re stressed?  Are you saying that your frustrated?  Sometimes we can use these words to describe our experience even though, deep down, we’re honestly just angry.

Allow yourself to really feel it and let it out.

Know that it’s okay to just vent your frustrations to others.  It doesn’t make you a bad person to let it out.

Also, know that if there is any physical action that you can do to help release it then let that happen as well.  Need to punch something?  Punch a pillow.  Feel the need to cry?  Then just let yourself cry it all out.

Accept what it is that you need to do to move forward and then do it!

Are you angry at your job and it has helped you realize that you need to quit?  Then do it.  Are you angry at your partner or a friend for something they did?  Then talk about it to make your frustrations known.

Take action now!

Have you found yourself angry about something lately?  Make note of what it was and then ask yourself, “What do I need to do to help process this and move forward?”  Share any of your thoughts below!