Tag Archives: life lessons

3 Lessons I’ve Learned in Finding My Glow

This week’s blog is a part of the GlowSchool Blog Tour, which was founded and created by my dear friend Dana Gatziolis.


In 2011, after graduating from college and in the process of looking for a job.  It appeared that I was doing everything “right”.  I had my degree in hand and I was in the process of searching for full-time teaching jobs.

But, inside, I was a complete mess.

I was stressed, mildly depressed, anxious, always worrying, had reoccurring migraines, increasingly bad digestion, and felt like I was “losing” myself.

I had several failed romantic relationships under my belt and all I could see upon the horizon were more opportunities for heartbreak and disappointment.  There was no end in sight.

So in the midst of my quarter-life crisis I decided to step outside of my comfort zone and explore… by moving to South Korea to teach English.

This was the beginning of my miraculous journey in finding my glow, and I’m now in a very different place than I was those 5 years ago. 

My anxiety is virtually gone, I haven’t had a migraine in years, my digestion is amazing, my worrying is totally under control, and I feel so much more in-tune with my true self.

And to top all that off, I’m in a relationship with a man who is honestly all that I could ask for.

There have been many lessons in my journey, but here are 3 lessons in particular that have helped me truly find my glow:

#1 – Self care isn’t an option, it’s a necessity

In our society where working 40+ hours a week, plus commute traffic, plus taking classes in order to earn more money, plus cooking dinner, taking care of kids, and so on is the norm, it’s insane to not think that self-care is vitally important. 

In fact, it’s not only vitally important, it’s an absolute necessity — for our mind, emotions, body and spirit.  Without self care, we’re like a wilting flower that desperately needs to be nourished, cared for and, most importantly, loved.

So I think it’s critically important to set some non-negotiable times for some self-care rituals.  Mark it in your calendar for every Friday to be “salt bath night”, every Monday and Wednesday to be “yoga night”, or every Thursday to be “art night”.  Another option would be to commit to eating better by committing to making a smoothie every day (or every other) to be sure you get enough fruits and veggies in your diet.

Find things that relax you and nourish your soul.  In doing so, it will help you glow.

#2 – You’ve got to feel it in order to let it go and heal

Several years ago I used to be as (probably) the majority of the population is: When I felt something I’d stuff it down to repress it hoping that feeling would go away.  In fact, I rarely even felt my feelings were okay.  I had a lot of difficulty trusting them and believing that they were valid.

No wonder I felt mildly depressed, anxious, had migraines, and bad digestion!  Often the reason we experience depression or anxiety (along with such physical symptoms) is because we’ve been repressing our emotions.

Once I started trusting and accepting my natural emotional responses and recognizing them as valid, things began to shift.  I started to feel more in-tune with myself again because, after all, I was now accepting my emotions rather than try to push them away.  And I mean all emotions: happiness, sadness, anger, rage, anxiety, worry, fear, vulnerability, shame, guilt, and so on.

So the key here is to work on starting a daily practice of recognizing what triggers you and your emotional and physical response to it.  Did someone cut you off while driving?  Did your boss criticize you at work?  Check in with yourself. 

Then once you check in with yourself and recognize your physical and emotional response, give yourself time to feel it.  One of my mentors says, “Feel it for 90 seconds to release it”.  So feel it, then release it. 

The more we become in-tune with our own feelings, the more we accept our whole selves — and the more we allow ourselves to truly glow.

#3 – Meditation truly transforms

When I first started meditating in 2012 I absolutely hated it.  I couldn’t focus on the mantra.  My foot would fall asleep.  I’d fall asleep.  I couldn’t sit still.  I was constantly distracted by noises.

But with a lot of time and practice, it’s gotten much easier and I can say this with complete and utter confidence:  Practicing meditation has created the biggest transformation in my life.  Period.

It was meditation that helped me calm my anxiety from when I first started dating my boyfriend.  It’s helped me significantly reduce stress.  It’s helped me get so much more in-tune with my own intuition and inner guidance.  And — most importantly — it’s helped me to really glow.

Meditation has helped me to truly connect with my own inner love and joy from within.  Are you interested in starting your own meditation practice?  Get started with my Free meditation Healing Blocks to Love from my meditation album Ignite Love from Within.

Take action now!

In the comments below, share with me what you are going to do for yourself today in order to help yourself glow.


This week’s blog is a part of Dana Gatziolis’s GlowSchool Blog Tour. I met Dana last year at Gabrielle Bernstein’s Spirit Junkie Masterclass.  Dana has an extraordinary story of being diagnosed with Crohn’s disease at the age of 9 to now helping others transform their own health and well-being as a wellness coach.  In addition, she is also carrying out her lifelong dream of being a country music singer and songwriter. You can learn more about her here.

Starting February 1st, Dana is offering her FREE 10-Day Get Glowing Adventure for 10 days of daily inspiration, challenges, and fun.  Click here to sign up!

On Friday, we heard from the beautiful Jen Kanipe on the blog tour and I’m very excited to hear Stephanie Kirylych’s story tomorrow!

11 Tough Love Lessons I Learned from My Ex-Boyfriends

We learn a lot from every partner we have. Here are 11 things I’ve learned from ex-boyfriends that have made me a stronger person.

1. Sometimes “unanswered” prayers are truly blessings in disguise.

Though you may really want to be with someone, years down the road, when you are happy in a new life, you’ll see breaking up truly was a blessing.

2. When someone is venting, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they want advice

…or any kind of help at all. Sometimes all they really want to do is vent. That’s it.

3. You can’t help someone who is unwilling (or unready) to help themselves.

Trying to would be codependent.

4. Just because someone verbally told you that they are committed doesn’t mean that they are.

That being said, just because someone told you they love you doesn’t mean that they actually do. Actions speak louder than words.

5. If someone shows you they are non-committal, believe them the first time.

6. You can’t always trust that others will respect your boundaries after you state them.

You have to be sure that you make actions that reinforce your boundary — no matter how painful and difficult that might be.

7. Putting your partner on a pedestal is only going to cause more suffering.

Remember you are both equals — always.


Click to Tweet: Putting your partner on a pedestal is only going to cause more suffering. via @jenilyn8705

8. You can’t force someone to love you…

…nor can you force someone to commit, be loyal or reciprocate.

9. Relationship “labels” really don’t hold that much clout.

Things can always change. No relationship is ever completely concrete.

10. If you’re ready to deepen and become more intimate in your relationship, then you’ve got to find someone who is ready to as well.

Being in a relationship with anyone who is less ready will only cause things to be stagnant.

11. Nobody is responsible for your happiness — only you are in control of that.


Now, I want to hear from you…

What lessons in love have you learned from your past relationships?  Share them in the comments below!