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It’s Not Up to You to “Figure it All Out”

It always seems that when a chapter of my life is soon coming to a close that it’s easy and natural for me to get caught up in the whole thinking of: What am I going to do next in my life?

It happened when I graduated with my Bachelor’s degree.  It happened when I chose to not renew my teaching contract while I was living in Korea.  And it has started happening again recently upon knowing that, in less than a year, I’ll have my Master’s degree.

The thought patterns have often gone something like this:

Where I am going to live?

If I want to move, where should I potentially move to?

What kind of work could I find there?

Should I do X or Y kind of work?

If I do X kind of work, will the salary be enough to pay bills?

What if I need a new car?

Etc. etc. etc.

The questions could go on and on forever.

While finishing a chapter in our lives can be very exciting — the end of a degree program, a job, or a relationship — it can also bring up a lot of stuff.

When a chapter of our lives ends, we then find ourselves at a crossroad.  So I turn right or left?  So I take A or B?  Or, should I not choose any of those and turn around and go right back where I was?

We now find ourselves in un-charted territory.  It’s new.  It’s unfamiliar.  We haven’t been through it before nor do we know where this new journey might take us.

And, due to the unfamiliarly, it can be pretty darn anxiety-provoking.  We fear that something will go wrong and we won’t be able to make ends meet.  We worry that we may take the job and then absolutely hate it — or the career path entirely flops for us.

As a result of this fear that, somehow, everything is going to go completely wrong, we decide that, maybe, we can just plan everything.

So we create to-do lists.  We set goals.  We create our vision boards for a dreams for the future and we make our 10-year plan.

But you know what happens then?  And I can vouch that this has happened to me every single time that I have tried to set any kind of long-term goal.

Life happens.  And the goals completely change.

Why?  Because it’s not up to me. It’s up to a power so much greater than me.

When we’re caught up in fear and worry, we start to over-analyze everything, and we try to plan and control everything in our lives, then that’s the voice of our ego, our monkey mind, our fear-based mind.

Our ego mind is limited.  It makes us see the world and the universe with lack and it believes that we are not supported.  And it drains our energy, our life-force, our power.  According to A Course in Miracles, the presence of fear is a sign that you are relying in your own strength.

So when we are in fear, worry, and stress because we’re pushing ourselves to figure out what we need to do next in our lives, all it does it create more stress, more worry, and more fear.

In the grand scheme of things, it makes us unhappy.  It keeps us in a place of suffering because it keeps us completely disconnected from our inner guidance and our true selves.  It makes us believe that we are not supported and that we only have ourselves to rely on to “figure it all out”.

But you know what?  You don’t have to figure it all out.  In fact, you’re one and only job is to let it all go.  Release the fear.  Release the worry.  Release the anxiety.  Then give those fears to a power greater than you — in whatever way you like to call it, whether that be Source, the Universe, the Divine, God or whatever.  Give it to a power greater than you and trust and know that you are supported.

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Click to Tweet: When you are fearful, give it to a power greater than you and trust and know that you are supported. @jenilyn8705 

Then once you do that, be still.  Quiet the mind.  Breathe.  Meditate.  Allow the beauty of the present moment to wash over you. Feel your body sitting.  Feel the air around you.  Hear the sounds around you in this moment.

Notice your inner mind chatter.  Observe it, but don’t attach to it.  Recognize it as fear and only fear, as the thoughts are not of your higher self, but wounded parts of yourself.  Love them and let them pass.

Continue to breathe.

And then slowly and gradually, the mind chatter will subside.  It may not completely go away, but it will become quieter.  In the stillness of the moment, trust that guidance for your next right action is coming.  It may come in the form of a thought, a feeling, a sensation, or maybe even through something in your external world, like through a friend, family member, co-worker, e-mail, magazine or whatever.

Regardless, be open and receptive.  Exhale and remember: It’s not up to you to figure it all out.

3 Tips for Self-Care Around the Holidays

The holiday season is upon us once again.  And though the holidays are often all about family gatherings, holiday parties, and taking part in all the various festivities to get in the “holiday spirit”, it’s important to remember that self-care is vital in these few months.

When the days are getting shorter and the days and nights getting colder, our bodies have a tendency to want to spend more time in rest.

Though we may forget with all the holiday hustle and bustle, winter is a time to reflect and recharge our batteries so we can be prepared to plant new seeds for the year ahead.  It’s a time to let go of the old, so that we can be open to the new that spring brings us. 

For this reason, it is vital to give ourselves enough time to rest during this season.  If not, we can quickly as easily find ourselves drained, exhausted, and, more than likely, sick on the couch with a bunch of kleenex.

So how can we adequately take care of ourselves this holiday season?  Here are 3 ways:

#1 – Hop on the “no train”

Though saying “no”, can be difficult for many of us (especially those of us who like to “please” people), it’s incredibly important to learn how to do if you’re going to take care of yourself.  You can’t really find time to rest and do all that you want to do if you’re saying yes to everyone else.

When we’re saying “yes” to what everybody else wants from us, it isn’t very empowering.  In fact, it can make us feel like others are more in control of our lives than we are.  So if you see value in taking care of yourself, it’s incredibly important to start saying no to things you really don’t feel like doing.

#2 – Give yourself more time to just rest

The winter months are not the time to sign up for an extra evening paint class or to take part in that new book club.  The holiday season keeps us busy enough as it is.

So try to minimize extra activities so that you can maybe go to bed a little bit earlier or maybe sleep in a bit later.  Your body and immune system will thank you — trust me.

#3 – Reflect on this past year to create a better vision for the year ahead

As I stated earlier, winter is a time to reflect, release and recharge so I find it very important to give ourselves time to do that!  One way to do this is by journaling to reflect on experiences from this past year and creating resolutions for the New Year.

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Click to Tweet: Winter is a time to reflect, release and recharge so be sure to give yourself time to do that! via @jenilyn8705

For myself, something that I found very valuable in this process is Danielle LaPorte’s book, The Desire Map.  I used to be a very goal-oriented person, but I’ve found over time that one or two things happened when I’d make a goal: 1. I’d experience little to no enjoyment upon meeting the goal or 2. I lacked motivation to actually achieve the goal cause I just wasn’t really “feeling it”.

What I’ve liked so much about Danielle’s method is that she doesn’t have us focus on the goal itself, but the core desired feelings that we want to experience as a result of that goal.  It’s based on the idea that we don’t want to achieve the goal, but the feeling that can potentially come with it.

So if you’re interested, you can check out The Desire Map and see for yourself.  If not, I still encourage you to explore this for yourself and find your own unique way to give yourself time to reflect on what you’ve experienced this year and get a sense for what you want in the year ahead.  It’s vitally important in the growth and evolution in our mind, body and soul.

Take action now!

How can you start to find more time for you to rest and recharge this holiday season?  Share in the comments below!

Why Goal Setting Doesn’t Work — and Here’s What I’m Doing Instead

I’ve always been a pretty goal oriented person.

When I was about 16, I remember writing bucket lists and a list of “Things I want to do before I’m 30”.

Even when the month or two before I was planning to move to South Korea to teach, I was writing lists to lay out my plans as to what I was going to do while there and once I got back.  I had it all planned out that I was going to teach for a year, come back home, start my Masters to go into some special education and then be working full time and married by about 28.

Clearly, that didn’t happen.

In fact, it’s not even close.

I’m not living back in Illinois, I don’t have a masters in special education, I’m not full time teaching, and I’m most certainly not married.

And you know what?  The idea that I could’ve actually planned where I’d want to be after living abroad is completely ludicrous! 

There is no way that I could’ve accurately planned my life out post-Korea.  In order for that to work, I would’ve had to experienced nothing that was even remotely life-changing during my time living and traveling overseas.

But yet, many of us still set goals in this same old fashioned way.  We make New Years Resolutions to plan everything that we want to do that year.  We make lists of things we want to do and achieve by a certain age.  We make bucket lists of things we want to do in our life time.

But how often do we actually follow through with our goals?  And, more importantly, how often do we feel fulfilled and happy when doing and achieving things on our lists?

More often than not, achieving our goal doesn’t really give that much satisfaction.  We earn our degree only to now be freaking out over finding a job.  We take a vacation out to the Grand Canyon only to now be planning our next trip.  We pay off our debt only to now be completely focused on saving to buy a new car.

We’re so busy focused on doing the next thing on our list, that we don’t give ourselves much time to really sit back and enjoy. 

So I’ve recently ditched my old way of goal setting and have started a totally new method that I’ve been finding to be so much more effective.  I’ve actually found myself feeling more in the flow, more joyful, and much less stressed and overwhelmed.

Here’s what I’m doing in a step-by-step guide so that you can start doing the same:

#1 – Make the one and only goal to feel happiness and joy.

Make things super simple for yourself: Make your main goal to feel happiness and joy in your life.  Everything else that you do can be byproduct of being happy or an influence to experiencing more happiness and joy. 

If something doesn’t quite produce happiness and, instead, creates a lot of stress or pressure then it’s time to reflect on it.  Ask yourself:  Is it possible that I can be happy and joyful when doing this?  If so, then focus on changing your mindset.  If not, then it’s time to look at your other options.

#2 – Try to focus on more short-term goals.

I think one of the biggest mistakes we can do when goal setting is trying to plan out 3, 5, and even 10 years in advance.  How can we even know what place we will be in by that time?  A lot of things can happen between now and then. 

Plus, focusing that far in advance only takes us more out of the present moment.  It puts us in the mindset that “eventually, someday, I’ll be happy” when, truly, we can all experience happiness right here, right now.  In fact, its the only time we can find happiness is in the present moment. 

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Click to Tweet: Happiness can’t be found in the past or the future.  It can only be experienced in the present moment. via @jenilyn8705

So if you’re going to set a goal to do something, focus on things that you’d like to do in the next few weeks, months, and up to maybe a couple years (and for planning years in advance I mean: When making a big purchase and needing think about where you’ll be then).  Anything more than that is just going to be a waste because, more than likely, it’s going to be changed over and over and over again.  Save yourself the time and energy and just focus on what you can do now.

#3 – When setting a goal, ask yourself: Does this feel like I’ll find happiness and joy out of this or am I “pushing it”?

Simply: Don’t set a goal because you think you “should”.  Be honest with yourself.  Be true to you! 

I can assure you that you’ll have a hard time really experiencing happiness if you’re constantly worried about keeping other people and society happy.  So do what you love and what lights you up.  Life’s just simply too short to be focused on trying to live someone else’s life.

Take action now!

For this week, go out into the world with your main goal to be happy and joyful.  Carry joy with you wherever you go.  If you find yourself in a situation where it’s challenging, ask yourself: What good things am I gaining from this experience?  What am I grateful for?  How can I bring happiness and joy into this maybe not-so-great environment? 

Then report back here and let me know your experiences! 🙂

The Truth About Being “Too Busy”

Back when I was a kid, I remember hearing adults always saying the words: “I’m too busy”.

“I can’t exercise because I’m too busy… I can’t go on vacation because I’m too busy… I can’t read that book because I’m too busy… I can’t work full time because I’m too busy,” I would hear them say.

As a pre-teen, I found this to be quite odd because, in my own observation, none of these adults were really that horribly busy.  I mean, they were spending at least 3 hours a night watching TV shows, watching movies, shopping for things that aren’t really necessities, reading novels, and checking and sending chain e-mails.  I knew plenty of other people who were more busy then they were and who were, in fact, doing all of those things that these adults proclaimed they were “too busy” for.

Of course, in this decade of the 2010’s, this has shifted a bit from the 90s.  Adults now spend more time surfing the web for hours, watching youtube videos, or doing things on their cell phone: texting, facebook-ing, tweeting, instagram-ing, timehop-ing, candy crush-ing, and so on.  Though we are more connected now than we have ever been, that same old habit of saying, “I’m too busy” is still very prevalent.

As adults, we have all, at some point or another, made this excuse in various ways and in various kinds of situations.

“I don’t have time to exercise…”

“I don’t have time to go to therapy…”

“I don’t have time to try out this diet…”

Though it is true that life as an adult requires many more demands and responsibilities, there’s a difference between actually “not having time” and “not trying to even make time”.

For many of us, when we are faced with an opportunity to change something about our lives or improve ourselves in some way, rather than to say, “Okay, I’ll make time” we experience inner resistance.  That inner resistance then surfaces by making a comment like “I don’t have time”.

This inner resistance can be rooted in a number of different causes.  Some of these causes include (but are not limited t0):

A limiting belief about how we generally don’t have time for anything other than work.

A fear of experiencing change because that means that we may have to feel a bit uncomfortable and have to change habits.

Denial of our issue that may need change. For example: We have a health problem, but we don’t want to change our diet to fix it because then we have to face the reality about our health problem.

A limiting belief that seeking out help is “weak”.

A fear of failure.

A fear that we may “not be good enough” if we try.

A limiting belief that “we are not worthy”.

A limiting belief that others matter more than we do or that we don’t “deserve” it, but others do.

And more!

We all have these kind of limiting beliefs and fears.  We can’t fully create change in our lives until we choose to face the fears and limiting beliefs that we have.

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Click to Tweet: We can’t fully create change in our lives until we choose to face the fears and limiting beliefs that we have. via @jenilyn8705

So how can we begin to do that and finally let go of the “I’m too busy” excuse so we can create happier and healthier lives for ourselves?  Here are 3 steps:

#1 – Recognize that you are experiencing an inner resistance.

The most vital key is to be able to recognize within yourself that you are experiencing a resistance.  This can be hard for many of us because we are caught up in the whole habit of saying things like “I’m too busy” and don’t think twice about what we say or do.

So take the time to pause for a moment and reflect on what you have been saying and doing.  Are you resisting change in your life in some way?  How so?

#2 – Ask yourself, “What beliefs or fears are causing this resistance?”

Do you fear change?  Are you in denial that change is needed?  Do you fear that you will fail or that you’re “not good enough”?  Get out a journal and write down whatever you think and feel may be going on for you internally to cause this inner resistance.

#3 – Find the time, then act!

Once you have recognized your inner resistance and identified your limiting beliefs and fears, find the time in your schedule to actually do the thing you’ve been putting off and take action!

Then once you act, continue to check in with yourself and notice what feelings come up for you.  What kind of mind-chatter is going on in your head?  Is it that now that you have started exercising you keep having thoughts of “I look ridiculous doing this!”?  Have you decided to take up painting but now that you are acting you notice all these thoughts of “I’m not good enough for this — I’m going to mess up!”?

Just simply recognize what thoughts come up for you, but don’t attach to them.  Don’t focus on them or give these thoughts any of your time and attention.  Simply recognize them, let them pass by in your mind, and continue taking action!

What is something that you always make the excuse “I’m too busy” for?  Share it in the comments below!

How to Create More Effective New Years Resolutions

With the new year just around the corner, many of us are setting our New Years Resolutions.  At the same time, there are many of us that may be reflecting on our past year’s resolutions.  I, for one, am one of those.

At the beginning of 2014, I wrote a list of 28 Things I Want to Do Before 28 (since my birthday is a few days after New Years).  This past year I did eat more greens, get shabu shabu in the US, go wine tasting in the Napa Valley, get a new macbook, get my life more organized, visit LA, create more guided meditations, and get published on the Huffington Post.

Although I did achieve these things, many of the things on this list didn’t happen.  As a result, I when looking through this list I found my inner critic creeping in and saying things like “Oh you’re such a failure”, which then caused me to shut down a bit.

But then I found myself roaming around my old room and I came across a New Years Resolutions list for 2004.  Back this list was a bit different. Yes, I still wrote down lists with goals I wanted to achieve like “Be on the Quill and Scroll Honor Society before graduation”, but these things were never a part of my New Years Resolutions.  Rather they were on my list of general “goals” with this attitude of “If I get there, great.  If not, then it was only just an idea after all.”

And so, for my official New Years Resolutions for 2004 I wrote down simpler things like “Be more optimistic” and “Take a lot more pictures”.

And you know the funny thing about this list of my 2004 New Years Resolutions?  I remember that when I looked at them by the end of the year I realized that I had achieved every single one!  My method of writing simple New Years Resolutions totally worked for me — and this has now lead me to writing my New Years Resolutions this year the same way as I did back then.

So here are some 3 tips to follow in creating more effective New Years Resolutions:

Ask yourself: “How would I like to grow and become better?”

So overall, how would you like to become better this coming year compared to this last year?  Would you like to be more optimistic?  Would you like to become better at forgiving and releasing bitter resentments?  Would you like to express yourself more in front of certain people?  Would you like to become better at processing your emotions rather than repressing them?  Would you like to become more emotionally aware?

Ask yourself: “What is something that I’d like to do that I haven’t been doing (or do more of)?”

So have you always wanted to learn how to paint but you have never done it?  Have you been thinking about starting to write a book but you’ve been putting it off for a long time?  Have you been exercising but you feel like it’d be a good idea to start doing it more?  Would you like to start running or doing yoga?  Would you like to start traveling more — or, at least, start making plans to travel more?

Keep the list short!

The problem with New Years Resolutions is that we may make list of 10, 20 or maybe even 30 things that we’d like to do.  This is so much more overwhelming and it makes it so much less likely that you’ll actually get around to achieving all of them.  Plus, when the list is short, it is so much easier to remember all of them throughout the year.  It’s easier to keep a running list in your mind of things you want to do throughout the year.

So keep your lists limited to about 8 resolutions max.  The less the better!

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Click to Tweet: When it comes to writing New Years Resolutions, the shorter and simpler the list, the better it is! via @jenilyn8705

Based on my own guidelines, here’s my own New Years Resolutions for this upcoming year:

1.  Have a regular yoga practice.
2.  Write a book.
3.  Be nourished through food.
4.  Dedicate more time and energy to meditation and prayer.

Take action now!

Based on the tips that I had shared above, create a list of New Years Resolutions for this coming year.  Then in the comments below, list at least one of your New Years Resolutions.

5 Steps to Manifest What You Desire

We have various things that we desire to have in life.  Maybe it’s a loving and supportive boyfriend or husband or a job that you truly love.  Maybe it’s to live or travel to a certain location.  Maybe it’s simply to feel happy or supported by others.

We all have these types of desires.  This desire to have something that’s better than what we currently have in life.

Though we are not consciously aware of it most of the time, the reality is that we are constantly manifesting.  We are constantly co-creating with the universe our current state of reality.  So whenever we keep telling ourselves things like, “This job sucks” then we will begin to hate our job more and more because we are the ones creating that energy.

On the flip side, if we tell ourselves “I’m amazing, attractive, and beautiful” then we are going to be sending that energy out to the environment around us and then attract more external things that make us feel amazing, attractive, and beautiful.

This is one of the biggest reasons why we fail to create exactly what it is that we desire: We belief that the shift must happen externally before it can happen internally.  We fail to realize that in order for the things that we desire to manifest in our external world, we have to shift our perception internally.  We have to let go of any beliefs, thoughts, and emotions that are holding us back from having what it is that we desire.

Above all, we have to focus intently in our internal condition, rather than to focus heavily on the new car or boyfriend that we want.

Below are 5 steps to follow in order to help you manifest exactly what it is that you truly desire.

Step 1: Let go of any meaningless desires and identify what you really want.

So for the majority of the population, if we are asked what it is that we want or desire then chances are we are going to answer by saying something like “A new car”, “To make $100,000 a year”, or “To get married”.

If you have any desires like this, write them down and acknowledge them.  Then sit back and really reflect on them and ask yourself why you really desire these things.  Are these things really going to provide you with what it is you really desire?

Here’s an example: Susan desires a new car.  She believes that this new car is going to make her feel happy and more successful.  One day Susan actually does get this car.  But she’s not really satisfied.  Sure, she now feels more successful and socially “up-to-date” in relation to her peers, but what Susan really wanted was to feel free, joyful and happy.  She now finds herself desiring a new house.

When we focus on the external thing rather than to really reflect and dive deep on the feeling that we desire we can then begin to find ourselves truly fulfilled rather than superficially fulfilled.

So look at the things that you desire to have in your external environment.  Then sit back and ask yourself, “What is the feeling that I desire to feel as a result of this?”  Free?  Supported?  Loved?  Excited?  Joyful?  Impactful?  What is it that you’re currently lacking in life that you are trying to gain through this external thing?

Now, please note that I don’t necessarily mean that you can’t ever desire to have a new relationship or a new car.  It is okay to desire these things.  However, you just want to be sure that this is something you really want that is going to satisfy you.  This way you don’t find yourself chasing your desire with material things that get you no where.

Step 2: Clear your space.

The reason that many of us struggle to actually manifest what we desire is because are unconsciously blocking ourselves with our limiting fear-based beliefs.  All of our limited beliefs are unique to us because they are based on our past history.  They can come from a combination of our childhood upbringing, past dating experiences, old emotional or physical traumas, childhood bullying, and so on.

We all have these blocks because we are human and our ego causes us to hold on to these limiting beliefs.  So the key to releasing these blocks is to be committed to asking the universe to help you release these beliefs.

This is where the power of prayer really comes in.  Make the commitment to say a prayer every morning and/or night to help you in releasing your blocks.  And here’s one key thing to remember: The more you surrender into your prayer and know you are perfect just the way you are then the more you’ll benefit.

Step 3: Open yourself to your desire.

So once you have identified the feeling that you wish to experience internally, take the time to really connect to that feeling.  Every day or at least a few times a week, do a meditation or visualization that allows you connect to that feeling.  Imagine in your mind’s eye what it would look and feel like to have your desire become a reality.  The more you do that, then the more you become embodied in your desire, which will strengthen it to become a reality.

Step 4: Take action.

Though we can certainly wish that simply praying and doing meditation will magically cause our desire to manifest, that isn’t how it works.  We have to act.  So if you want a new relationship, then get yourself out in public.  If you want a new car because you know it will help you live more comfortably, then start looking around for cars and comparing prices.  If you want a job that you absolutely love, then start looking for new jobs or read some books to discover your biggest strengths.

Remember, it’s all about co-creating with the universe.  The universe isn’t going to simply do it all for you just because you made the intention.  You have to be sure to do your half of the effort.

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Step 5: Have faith.

Typically after we set the stage to manifest exact what we desire, our ego goes into a bit of a “panic” or “self-doubt” mode where we struggle to really believe that it can happen.  We can find ourselves anxious, doubtful, worried, or frustrated.

Be self-accepting and mindful when this comes up.  Simply accept it as a natural response from the ego.  Don’t try to push or force it away.  Simply accept it and then let it go.

Be sure that you don’t focus a lot of energy on the worry because that will shift your energy and cause a delay in manifesting your desire.  If you find yourself worrying, stop, take several deep breaths, and focus intensely in the present moment. You can also try yoga, exercise, or do EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) to help you release the worry.

Ultimately, remember: Trust in the universe.  Things may not quite manifest exactly at the right time or in the way that you want them to.  Have patience and trust that the universe will give you exactly what you need at the exact time that you need it.

Begin to manifest what you desire today!

What is it that you desire in your life?  What is the feeling that you desire to experience?  What kinds of things can you do that will help you manifest that feeling in your life?  Share it in the comments below!

The Realization that Transformed the Way I Approach Life

As some of you may know from my About Page, a little over two years ago I moved to South Korea.

Prior to the move, I felt as if I had been doing all these things to make other people happy and that I was living someone else’s life rather than my own. I was tired, stressed, and not really taking care of myself the way I needed to be. I was drinking too much coffee and much more alcohol than I probably should’ve been in order to unwind from this “adult life” that I felt I was expected to.

I was worn out and I felt very disconnected from myself… I felt I had lost myself somewhere along the path of “growing up”.

So I packed away a year’s worth of clothes and belongings into two suitcases and, in a leap of faith, took my first 747 across the Pacific.

Weeks before moving, I kept daydreaming of all the possibilities:

“This is a foreign country completely different from here!”

“There will be so much to learn and explore!”

“How on earth could I NOT live in the present moment while living there? It will be so much easier to stop dreaming about the future!”

All of this was paired with idealistic dreams of effortlessly becoming a freelance writer on the side for extra income so I could later afford to live and teach in Europe.

… yeah right Jen.

During my first week in Korea, I quickly had a bit of a rude awakening.  I met up with fellow expats and found myself going along doing the same exact thing that I’ve done back home.  Talking the same way, acting the same way, saying things because I felt it was more socially appropriate while hiding my own genuine feelings for the sake of others.

I remember walking across an overpass after socializing at a bar with fellow expats when it occurred to me: This is NO different here than it was back home! I’m STILL struggling with getting lost in other people and I’m still drinking more than I want to be. It was then that I fully realized: Wherever we go, there we are. We can start dating someone new, we can make new friends, we can even move on the other side of the world but the one thing that NEVER changes is what WE bring to the table.

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It’s been a long journey since I had that realization.  Though it is still a journey, I do feel that I have done a 180.  I’m so much happier and fulfilled.  For the first time since I’ve begun this true journey of “adulthood” I feel in tune with myself and truly on the correct path.  And even though everything may not be “perfect”, I’m no longer sad about any of the struggles but overwhelmed with excitement for what’s yet to come.

How do I do it, you ask?  Well, some simple things really…

1.  Taking time to either meditate, pray, and/or reflect in a journal every day.

2.  Focus on my own emotions as I’m experiencing them.

3.  Reaching out to find like-minded groups.

4.   Completely following the inner drive of what I want to do rather than what other people or society wants me to do.

It takes effort.  Afterall, it is a continuous never ending journey but the payback through the simplest of efforts is totally worth it in every way imaginable.  Life’s always going to be full of challenges, but the moment you accept the challenge and take full responsibility for your own actions in the situation then shifts start to happen.  It’s when you shift your thinking from the victimhood of “Oh I always get sh*t on in relationships…” to the excitement and boldness of “Alright universe, what do you got for me next?” that you really step up to the plate.

Are YOU stepping up to the plate in your life?  Are you completely owning that?  Are you ready to tackle challenges?  Are you ready to create your best relationships possible?  Are you ready to create a life for yourself that may be seemingly “impossible”?

This is why I am here today to help support YOU on your process. We all experience painful challenges in life and we all need support and help to work through those roadblocks. What I’ve realized through my own experience is that the greatest gift we can give ourselves in times of struggle is the support and guidance of others who understand.

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I am here to support you in your journey at whatever level you are at.

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